A few weeks ago I posted a blog entitled, The 80/20 Principle. There I stated that a ratio, approximately 80:20, can be observed in many aspects of our lives and in the world. When this 80/20 rule is carelessly tampered with, a waste will occur. That waste will be seen in your personal life. But when used advantageously, great benefits to you will result.
Now, does this 80/20 principle work with human relationships? That is this post’s main question. True, there are many people and frivolous social activities that will drain your time and, if you are not careful, result in you getting very little accomplished.
But, did not Jesus Christ say we are to fully love our neighbor as yourself? Did not Christ even command us to love our enemies? What am I saying? Does the 80/20 principle mean you should only love 20 percent of your enemies which will have the impact of loving 80 percent of them? No. This is ludicrous!
Therefore, this other book, The 100/0 Principle, caught my attention. I believe it was no coincidence I discovered it while I was putting together my 80/20 post. I believe God wanted me to look into this concept a little further. This is what this post is all about.
First of all, at the back of this book, it says that the author, Al Ritter…
“… is a management consultant and professional speaker, in addition to being an author. He is founder and president of The Ritter Consulting Group, and has consulted for the past 20 years to thousands of people across many industries in both the U.S. and overseas. Al is a leadership coach who works with CEOs, other leaders and teams committed to achieving breakthrough results in their own and their organization’s performance.”
Mr. Ritter does not go into any detail on how this 100/0 principle came into being, except to say that he has used it for many years in helping other people, businesses and associations improve themselves. So, apparently it was he who recognize it and put it into practice with dramatic results.
Unlike the 80/20 principle which occurs automatically and naturally and mostly with little effort by those who are unaware of it, the 100/0 principle is usually unnatural. It requires conscious effort to observe it and become successful.
This is not a religious book This book is about leadership and managing people. This book is all about relationships. And as I read it, I realized that this 100/0 principle is what God wants us to practice as Christians! Here are some Bible verses which are examples:
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,
Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you.
According to this principle, in order for us to love our neighbor, we must not have any preconceived ideas about a person when we first meet him. This initially goes contrary to human nature and also against the instinct of preservation – especially toward strangers.
The whole Bible is a book where the 100/0 Principle can be seen. Here are a few more verses…
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
1 John 4:19
We love Him because he first loved us (NKJV)
While dying on the cross, Christ prayed this remarkable prayer:
Then Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do.” (Luke 23:34)
Yes, indeed, this book, The 100/0 Principle, deals with getting along with with others:
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. (Matthew 6:14)
Do you remember the homework questions I left at the end of the 80/20 Principle post? One of them dealt with the doctrine of predestination. Many Christians believe that God had predetermined, before mankind was created, for only a few, only chosen by God, (without any human free-will choice) to be saved. After all, the argument (reasoning) goes, God says, “I will have mercy on who I will have mercy” (Romans 9:15).
I believe God has bountiful mercy – He is merciful. Very merciful! Please note: accepting any interpretation of the doctrine of predestination – correct or not – is not required for salvation. But, I have been amazed how many Christians believe that many people may not be saved for no other reason than that God decided eons ago it be so. If true, (and I believe it is not) I must then ask myself if the 80/20 principle perhaps would have had something to do with it.
But, my belief is that God has unconditional love toward His creation. I believe that even those who reject His salvation still has God’s love. Even sending someone to hell fire is an act of mercey. (But that is another point for another time – Lord willing). God is merciful.
Again, why would God have us love our neighbor and our enemies if most of mankind (perhaps 80% ?) are already condemned? I do not agree. God does not want us to love our fellowman out of pity. It was at the cross where God displayed His desire that all men be saved (1 Timothy 2:4). Anyway, this Calvinistic predestination view has been among Christians for around 500 years and will be sorted out when Christ returns.
Now, what does the zero (0) in the 100/0 principle mean? It means that we are to love others unconditionally – without expecting anything in return – zero, zip, nada. When people respond positively to our love toward them, the ratio may change up to 100/100. But, often it will not change – not in this lifetime.
This book, the 100/0 Principle is a small book. It was written to be read and re-read several times and applied. It epitomizes the Golden Rule (Matthew 7:12) – especially with God’s Holy Spirit within us, making it more possible to achieve.
May God bless you as you begin meditating on this as it relates to the passion of Jesus Christ over the next few days.